"God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December" ~ James M. Barrie
I recently attended the funeral (home going service) of a dear loved one. Family, friends, and clergy made many profound statements. One that tugged at my heart was a quote by Barrie: “God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December.”
I know firsthand how inspiring fond memories can be. I lost both my parents within three months of each other. Although I knew they would one day transition from life to death, I was shocked by the extent of my grief when they transitioned. By all accounts, my parents were considered elderly, but when they died, I felt like a part of me had been ripped away--twice. During that time, I thought about the phantom pain that some people experience when their limb or extremity hurts after a surgeon amputates it. Although the limb is no longer present, the person continues to feel pain.
When you consider the makings of life, both parents literally become one to offer a portion of themselves. Consequently, the merger produces new life. I learned to accept grief and reasoned that my heart ached because what was once parts of a whole had been broken up. I was part of my parents, and my parents were part of me. No wonder I hurt when they were no longer present. This was my December. But then I began to smell the roses in December.
Keeping a gratitude journal is simple way for you to encourage yourself and revolutionize your thinking about a situation:
- Designate a journal for your gratitude (you can also keep an electronic journal).
- A few days a week write down at least three things for which you are thankful.
- Go the extra mile--Instead of listing items, explain why you are grateful.
- Include pictures and small mementos, such as a leaf, a swatch of fabric, or a feather.
- Incorporate your senses: what you heard, saw, smelled, tasted, and touched.
- Make gratitude writing a family activity in which all members of the family contribute to it.
- Periodically reflect on what you wrote, especially on the days you need encouragement.
- Consider using a cork or other decorative board in which you prominently post your expressions gratitude. The visual aid becomes a constant reminder of your gratitude.
- Write from a spiritual perspective; express your gratitude in the form of a prayer.
- Write letters to others to express your gratitude.
- Don’t forget to recognize under recognized facts, such as you survived the day--you are still alive.
Connect with me on Pinterest http://www.pinterest.com/dgwhite78/ to view creative ideas about writing:
- Why should you write?
- How should you write?
- The quirks of writing
- When should you write?
- What is writing?
- What is a writer?
- In what should you write?
How have roses in December helped you? This is the story in you. Share it.